Then and Now – How the Web Has Changed How We Look For Love

My how finding your soul mate has changed! There are, of course, many ways we finally find our mate. I wanted to take you through a quick personal journey of how I found my mine back then and how you can your mate now using the web. philippines web cam

I was about 30 when I started to think seriously about finding my soul mate. Yes, I had serious contenders before, but I wasn’t quite ready yet. Yes, we all had our hearts broken at least a few times before. Yet we move on. We say to ourselves there’s plenty of fish in sea! Hit the clubs, drink and be merry! Yes, girls, even men have a clock in their head and it’s not their biological one either. You should always get married when the times right for you. But it’s always different for everyone, even me. Geez, I thought if I wait longer like when I am 40 my son will be graduating college when I getting ready for my retirement years. Nope, no time to waste now. Time to find a wife!

The web just started making it’s baby steps 12, 13 years or so ago. Heck, we were lucky to see .jpegs or photos on the web. Nope, no thought about the web then for my need. But I was attracted to Asian women for some reason. Maybe because my best friend was Filipino. I spend a good amount time around Filipina women by virtue of my friend’s family. I understood their culture, heritage. Or may be it was that German/Filipina girl I dated, while she liked me, the thought of me as her mate never crossed her mind. Darn! Yes, plenty of fish in the sea. At least my fish was Asian now.

Well pushing 30 I thought I know my mate won’t be a girl I meet at a club. I missed my chance in college. Smart, pretty blonde I had. She got straight As in college! She ended up marrying my room mate in college! Go figure! Am I ever going to find my soul mate?

Then one day, reading through the USA Today I saw an ad about US Asian Connections. Hmm. May be I’ll check this out. I did. I ordered a pamphlet with the girls pictures and short bio. Problem was I’m in the US and they are somewhere in Asia. Well, I started to write to them and we became penpals! I got lots of replies. How wonderful! I am wanted man! I made plans to go see a few of my penpals. Geez, took 2 weeks for my mail to arrive overseas. I even bought stamps from their country, included it in my mail to them so they could send their mail back to me quickly.

I decided to go to the Philippines. My first trip outside of the US! First trip on an airplane!

Long flight. 6 stops and 2 days later I arrive in Philippines. What a difference. Nothing like the States! Culture shock for me. But the Filipinos were very friendly and outgoing to an American guy like me. A lot of them still remembered how General MacArthur during WW II had saved their country from the Japanese. They even have a street named after him.

My the Filipina women were beautiful and petite. I am in heaven! I met a few girls I wrote to, but one stood out for me. The first time we met she said “Hi, my name is Annie!” Love at first site for me! We spent a lot time with each over a 3 week period. She was in my heart. I knew I had to know more about her.

Once I got back to the States, we chatted on the phone and continued to write to one another. She was always on my mind. I even started to practice saying, “Honey, I am home!” Eventually, she came to the States and we got married. We’ve been happily married for 12 years and have an energetic 6 year-old-son. I couldn’t be more happier with my marriage. We all go through marriage growing pains. We adjust, we survive, we change for love and family.

Now the web’s part of lives just like TV is. We use it quite often. Want to search for something on the web? Google it. Want to keep up with your friend’s daily lives? Go to Want a DVD rental sent to your house? Go to Want to find a soul mate? There are plenty of web sites created with finding your soul mate.

On a dating site, your romantic interest can be sent an email instantly. You don’t have to wait 2 weeks for your mail to arrive overseas. You can chat and see them live via your PC and spend many hours getting to know your romantic interest. No need to jump in your car or catch a plane overseas just yet. You can view their profile and nice photos. You can do a member search for certain attributes like race, height, education, weight and the like. You don’t even have to leave your house to at least initially to find someone you think might be your future mate. Sounds easy, huh? Like anything else in life there are advantages and disadvantages.